Montreal's First Divorce Conference
On May 31, 2018, we took part in Montreal’s first divorce conference, an event which turned out to be a huge success.
This one-of-a-kind conference was geared towards educating and helping people who are separated, in the process of getting divorced, or thinking of getting divorced. The event provided attendees with a unique opportunity to take advantage of a pleathora of valuable information from professionals of various industries. The featured speakers included a psychologist, a financial planner, a mediator, and a mortgage broker, among others. The participants were given powerful and realistic tips, tricks and solutions to help navigate this difficult period in their lives as smoothly and efficiently as possible.
Keeping in line with our way of thinking, the conference had the goal of challenging the status quo by trying to reduce the number of nasty divorces in our society. Participants were taught that by leaving their egos at the door and thinking about the big picture, it is usually possible to come to an agreement with your ex-spouse that you can both live comfortably with. In doing so, both parties are able to maintain control of their separation.
We tell our clients that it is normal not to see eye to eye with your ex-spouse on each individual aspect of your separation. We advise them however, that if they are able to sign a Consent agreement with their ex-spouse, it is still an agreement that is reached between both parties who know their situation best, know their kids best, and are best suited to come to an informed decision with respect to their lives.
The alternative is to put their fates into the hands of a judge, who is also a stranger that has no prior knowledge or insight into their lives. We often tell clients that although we can do the best job of protecting their rights in court, if the same exact case and facts were brought before ten different judges, you would likely see ten different judgments. Once we step foot in court, there are certain factors that suddenly become outside of our control
As lawyers, our jobs are to make sure that we can help our clients figure out what it is that they are not willing to compromise on, and which aspects they are more flexible on. The art of negotiation is one of the most important things we can pass on to our clients and it is also one of the most important tools we can implement on their behalf. Spending two years in and out of court litigating one’s divorce will take a serious toll on your mental health. We make our clients see the value in being able to settle their divorces, come out with what is important to them, and still have the time and energy to be able to care for themselves and for their kids.
We also explained to participants that having a lawyer who cares about keeping costs down and about spending the least amount of time in the process of getting divorced is KEY, and it is also quite rare. At our firm, we constantly have time and cost efficiency in mind in order to be able to get you through this rough patch in your life without either one of us losing sight of the end goal.